You collect books, podcasts, read blogs, and follow various social media accounts about parenting, always looking for answers to create the easy and joyful relationship you envisioned before becoming a parent. You’ve come a long way and figured out some things that work well for you, but all the conflicting advice and "noise" often leave you confused and tired.

Occasionally, you learn a new skill or approach that helps, but it never seems to last. Your co-parent feels frustrated with your ever-changing suggestions and new "rules." It’s hard for you to stay with one consistent parenting approach because you worry something else might be better.

You know your values but haven’t written them down or declared them to your kids. If you're honest, this is because you feel hypocritical for not always behaving in alignment with your values.

You feel like you live on a roller coaster. There are days, sometimes even weeks, when it feels like smooth sailing and you think you’ve got things figured out, finally! Then, things go wrong, everyone gets upset, and you beat yourself up and feel like the worst parent ever.

You are working hard to be more patient and present with your child, but usually fall short of your goals. You are convinced the parent-child connection you seek is just out of reach and can't figure out why.

Emotion regulation for you means finding consistency in your emotional responses and building resilience. Practices such as mindfulness, regular exercise, and journaling about your feelings can help stabilize your emotions and create a calmer, more predictable environment for your children.

You are thankful for your parenthood journey and all it has brought you but still fear making a mistake. You go to bed and wake up more often with worry or dread than a feeling of peace and gratitude. You often feel like your kids are spoiled or not as thankful as they should be for the wonderful life you've given them.

Practicing gratitude involves shifting your focus from fear and worry to appreciation and positivity. Try starting and ending your day with a moment of reflection on what went well and what you are grateful for. Encourage your children to do the same, creating a family culture of gratitude. Sharing positive moments at the dinner table can also reinforce this practice.

It is important to you to do your best daily. You seek to always get things right the first time. When you fall short of your expectations, it can take days or even weeks to recover your motivation and re-engage with your goals.

Embracing failure means seeing mistakes as part of the learning process. Teach your children that it's okay to make mistakes and that what matters most is how you respond and learn from them. Share stories of your own failures and what you learned, creating a family narrative that values growth over perfection.