You would rate your parenting as B+/A-. Your kids are doing okay in school, have friends, and seem basically happy. They meet your expectations because you run a tight ship.

You are always busy—work, kids’ activities, running errands, helping kids with homework, planning their weeks, and doing laundry. If you don’t do it, it doesn’t get done.

You have noticed that your own health has declined as a result of all the love and attention you pour into your kids, but you feel this is what parenthood should be and can't see any alternatives.

If you have a spouse, you rarely go out together anymore, but this is common among your peer group and you figure at some point in the future this will change, or you will divorce after the kids leave home.

Your kids know you are in charge and have learned not to talk back to you or question you. You expect them to handle themselves properly.

Improving emotion regulation involves learning to manage your stress and finding healthier ways to express your emotions. Practices such as mindfulness, meditation, and regular exercise can help you become more aware of your emotional state and respond more calmly.

It's also important to model healthy emotional regulation for your children, showing them how to handle their own emotions effectively.

You don’t feel you should have to thank your family members for doing chores around the house. After all, no one thanks you!

If you’re honest, you often feel resentful—of your kids, of your spouse or co-parent—because you are always working harder and seem to care more than anyone else.

Practicing gratitude means recognizing and appreciating the efforts of others, even if they are small. Start by acknowledging the positive contributions of your family members and expressing your gratitude openly. This can create a more positive and cooperative atmosphere at home. Consider keeping a family gratitude journal where everyone can write down things they are thankful for.

You will not settle for less than great. For you, this usually means insufficient sleep, often feeling tired and cranky, and regular arguments with your kids about what is "good enough."

You see failing grades or poor results from your kids as a sign that they are lazy, and this is unacceptable.

Embracing failure involves redefining what it means to succeed and accepting that mistakes are part of the learning process. Encourage your children to take risks and try new things, even if they might fail. Celebrate their efforts and progress rather than just the outcomes. This can help them develop a growth mindset and reduce the fear of failure.